I had a really interesting conversation with my 11 year old daughter and thought it worthy of a share. It was Monday evening and we were on our way to basketball. M asked if she could pick a song from my iPhone. I said sure and handed it over. She chose Nickelback’s Burn it to the ground. Not exactly an appropriate song for an 11 year old but I let it slide. There are a couple of swears in the song but it is not as bad as some. When the first swear came up I made a loud ‘BLEEP’ and looked at her with a smile.
She turns to me and says “You know Dad if you hadn’t made a deal out of it I probably wouldn’t have noticed”.
I looked at her and affectionately told her that the reason I don’t mind so much that she listens to it is because I know she is mature enough to know that you don’t use bad words. I then gave her the hairy eyeball with a raised brow and said
“You don’t use bad words do you?”.
She responded with the expected “No”.
So I teasingly pushed and said “Never???”.
She responds with “Well, sometimes in my head maybe”.
I chuckled and said “But not out loud?”.
She says “No, but I think everyone does in there head sometimes”.
Me: “You think so?”
Her: “Yes. Like the time we were in the car and you were talking to that lender person… You were banging your head on the steering wheel? Do you remember that?”
Her: “Yeah, I bet you were saying bad words in your head then”
Come to think of it she was probably correct. Funny how perceptive kids are eh?